Operating from a place of fear is so common for me that I confuse it with rational decision making. There was a time in my life when fear was necessary and I needed it to keep me safe. I have absolutely no need for it any longer (unless I’m in a parking garage at night) but, nonetheless, it’s my go-to emotion. Having the courage to make decisions based on your core values as opposed to your fear can (and will) change the trajectory of your life. The hard part is coming to terms with the fact that your core values will not always align with the values of the people and world around you. I’m here to tell you that that’s okay.
For instance, I like to get myself “dolled up”. Sometimes everyday or, if I’m feeling off, once a week or even less. I used to have a real fear that I would be judged as being vain so I would make self effacing jokes about it or avoid the topic altogether. Vanity was seen as a very negative quality in my family so I lived with the fear of being seen that way. The truth about my beauty routine is that it is something that makes me feel balanced and happy. I enjoy the whole process of getting myself ready, from my shower to putting my coat on and walking out the door feeling confident. The meditative quality of that methodical process happens to be good for me. Not everyone feels that way nor do they need to. I do know that if you see me back-sliding on that routine, there is a good chance I’m not feeling great (emotionally or otherwise). The fallout, for me, when I’m feeling imbalanced is that I stop taking care of myself.
Being brave enough to say “This is who I am!” allows people to love you and accept you the way you are. It also allows them to be there for you when they can see that you are not aligned with your true self. The beauty industry can be very triggering for women. Believe me, I get it...big time! I absolutely stand with women in every way! What I do not agree with is a cookie cutter mold of what it looks like to be a happy and successful woman. Dream Spa Medical seeks to dispel the myth that self-care equals vanity.
Your homework this week is to write down 2 things that you could add to your self-care routine everyday that you believe would intensify your satisfaction with your life. The catch is...you can’t just write it down and then let fear take over and stuff it into a drawer with the hope you’ll pull it out someday. I know how you feel. You are scared to tell your family that you insist on spending an additional 15 or 30 minutes a day taking care of just you. Boy, that IS selfish isn’t it? No, it is not! That is your fear talking. Your family may be taken aback. Your children will certainly need some time to adjust to not being allowed in the bathroom when you’re in there LOL. The result, however, will be that, once the people around you see you becoming happier with each passing day, they will support your self-care. Stand behind your decision that it is important to you and it keeps you balanced and it is NOT optional!
Wishing You a Week of Phenomenal Self-Care!